Dear Bachelors, Bachelorettes, and Everyone Else—a collective letter to all the folks out there.
Don’t fret—Valentine’s Day is upon us once again. In my humble opinion, this holiday gets too much attention. (Anyone else out there believe that there is a ridiculous amount of pressure around the 14th of February?) It’s either pressure to do something romantic and amazing or its pressure to find someone to do something romantic and amazing with.
In a culture that celebrates individuality, it amazes me that a holiday celebrating love would get so much attention.
In some ways I am ever grateful that we can come together and magnify loving one another.
In other ways I am a bit concerned that our culture has mixed views on what love is.
Let’s see if I can get these definitions right because there is a difference between infatuation and love.
Infatuation is where it’s fun and cute. There are heaps of pictures being taken. There are rainbows and sunshine and all is fun and games. One is inspired by lovely thoughts and admiration for another.
Love is heaps deeper. Love is tricky and difficult. Love is choosing that person whom hurts you, who fights with you, love is choosing to stay. Love doesn’t run. It is a constant when the world spins and an assurance when none can be found. Real love is beautiful.
I think we are made for companionship. I do not believe that life is meant to be lived out on our own. We need each other. We need friendships, relationships, and family.
How quickly we bail out after the infatuation period. (Ahh! online dating disasters!) How quickly we run when things get hard. How quickly we shut people out just to jump into the next dating relationship.
And friendships? I do believe this is a struggling art. With everyone’s busy schedule, with the craziness that is life, with the age of technology—finding true and lasting friendships is a rare thing. (I would march down the streets to raise awareness to this in a heartbeat.)
But don’t fret! There is hope! There is good in the world!
An older couple was interviewed about how they stayed together. They answered with, “We were raised in a time where if something was broke you fixed it, you didn’t throw it away.” How beautiful and inspiring.
Love is there when we least expect it. It’s in the unexpected text from a friend, from the couples in love who stay together through the years, to the concerned friends that we can lean on, and in the sweet words of encouragement expressed by those whom want to know how your day was.
Here is to adults celebrating love with friends—may we seek out friendships and grow ever deeper in love!
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